Author: Arin Blackwood

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Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞

Jesus, leave his ass.

We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.

My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning.  They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.

This is so sad

This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user

Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.

Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”

My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time

It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother

Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.

After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:

• The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)
• Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear
• Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)
• What brand butter we bought
• What brand of local kielbasa we bought
• Who his doctor was
• What RMV office had the shortest lines
• Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)
• The phone number for his best friend

I shit you not.

Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.

Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.

Millennial women of Tumblr, please read this post.

And then please: make the decision for yourself to never stay with a man who expects you to be his mother and servant.

Young folks in a romantic relationship with dudes, don’t make the same mistakes of older generations and expect men to change. We won’t, particularly if we suffer no ill consequences for not changing.

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listen just because a song was written before 1920 and has a fiddle in it doesn’t make it a sea shanty

I saw a ‘sea shanty playlist’ with finnegans wake in it and I almost died

a sea shatny is an unaccompanied work song with a call and response structure just because a folk song is about the sea doesn’t make it a shanty

actual tall ship sailor here! this isn’t quite accurate. there are two main categories of sea shanty: working shanties and fo’c’sle shanties.

working shanties are (obviously) songs sung while working. they typically have a steady beat and a call and response format – useful not only for keeping a massive crew all hauling on a line / heaving on a capstan together, but also for not becoming mind-numbingly bored as you do this for hours on end (raising an anchor could literally take an hour in the days before hydraulic windlasses and propeller-driven ships. last time i did it, even with using the ship’s engine to get us over the anchor, it took about fifteen minutes of constant work to get the anchor up). there are subcategories of working shanty based on what kind of work you’re doing (short haul, long haul, capstan e.g)

fo’c’sle shanties (short for forecastle, where the common jack tar would sleep/hang out) are another story. they were sung purely for entertainment, sort of like campfire songs. as such, they are much freer in form – they often aren’t call and response, and they rarely keep as steady a beat. 

either of these two categories can be accompanied! the shantyman would often play the fiddle while standing on the capstan as it rotated, and of course in fo’c’sle shanties anything goes. besides, if you wouldn’t slam a traditional irish tune for having guitar playing chords behind the melody (an innovation that only came about in the 1970s, and piano accompaniment in the 1920s, prior to which everyone just played the melody in unison), there’s no need to slam a shanty for having accompaniment, even non-traditional accompaniment. it makes stuff sound nicer!

sources: Sing Shanties, Story of Irish Music

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3/5/2018

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