Stop abusing your boyfriends and yes what you are doing is abuse.
Stop:
Yelling at him in front of his friends
Hitting or slapping him when he does or says something you don’t like
Telling him he doesn’t have a choice when it comes to decisions that involve both of you
Telling him he can’t hang out with friends because you don’t like him
Telling him to not talk to other girls even if they are his friend
Forcing him to spend every moment with you
Belittling him and pointing out all his flaws
Calling him stupid or making fun of him for making a mistake
Threatening to break up with him if he doesn’t do what you want
Being emotionally manipulative and crying until he does what you want
Accusing him of cheating every time he’s not with you
Blow up is phone if he doesn’t text you every five minutes
Telling him you are the must thing that has ever happened to him and no one else will love
Physically attacking him when ever you are mad
Forcing him to have sex despite that fact that he said he didn’t want to
Invading his privacy by going through his phone
Getting mad at him for changing his password and demanding he tell you what it is
If a guy did any of these things to a girl it would be considered abuse but since its the other way around its considered normal. Throughout High school I saw many girl treating their boyfriends like shit. Sometime even physically abusing them in the hallways and no one trying to stop it because its a girl attacking a boy.
Boys: If your girlfriend does anything on this list leave her. It is abuse and you deserve better.
Girls: if you find your self doing anything on this list to your boyfriend you need to knock it off because you are being abusive.
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My brother was abused by his babies mom and it started like this and escalated to child abuse and neglect.
You don’t deserve to be screamed at, ignored, or assaulted.
Not showing affection when she wants or not hugging her before class) or missing a phone call doesn’t warrant getting cussed out or hit.
Lol, I lost 5 followers from reblogging this. That’s fine, y’all can go
Whole lot of grown women do this too.
Just wanna throw these in too
Being passive aggressive with him when he wants to spend time with friends or doing other things
controlling when he’s able to go out with friends
Breaking up his friendships with other girls just because you’re insecure
Making him feel like his opinions in decisions that affect the both of you are irrelevant and don’t matter
testing him in anyway in general without his knowledge or permission (example: catfishing! it’s manipulative and weird don’t fucking do that)
taking money/credit cards without permission to spend on things without his knowledge ( had an ex friend do this constantly to her boyfriend and she’d always condone it because “he’ll get over it” )
guilting him for hanging out with friends/family over you and making him choose between you and friends/family
telling him “you don’t love me if you *insert harmless activity he wants to do here* “
being rude or mean to him in front of others to assert dominance or power over him
downloading apps to spy on his phone activity (yes, this is a thing “”regular”” people do) or snooping on his social media to see who he’s talking to
hitting him, slapping him, punching him, shoving him. literally how do people not understand slapping your male partner is bad. people tend to find this funny in media and society and its weird. KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR PARTNER WITHOUT PERMISSION.
I come from a family of very forward and manipulative women and i see it in media all the time. it’s fucked and people need to not be accepting of young girls acting like snot-nosed, abusive shit heads that think they can get away with manipulation and cruelty because they happen to be girls.
and let me add this. ABUSIVE TEEN GIRLFRIENDS TURN INTO ABUSIVE GROWN ASS WOMEN GIRLFRIENDS WHO TURN INTO ABUSIVE WIVES.
if you have an abusive teen or young adult gf right now fellas, leave. don’t let her use you to get her shit right. you’ll be so fucked up by the time she gets it together if she ever does and believe that most likely she won’t.
Can i just add that ive seen young queer girls do this to their girlfriends. Girls can be abusers and you are right to leave.
Women/young girls can definitely be just as abusive. I knew a young man that got ran over and had his leg broken by his girlfriend because (in her words he annoyed her) He refused to press charges.
Another young lady started to hit her ex boyfriend because he wouldn’t take her back because of the abuse. He called the cops on her and they literally started laughing at him because she was very petite in comparison to him. Anyone can be abusive and I wish more people understood that.
dammit I’d spam my blog if i reblog this more than once but dude this is really important.
Oh my god. This is so important.
This is legit the reason why so many guys I know are too scared to be in a relationship
Ok so I’m a little embarrassed to admit I actually fell for this one, even though I’m usually WAY better and seeing through these scams…but it happened to me so I’m gonna spread this around. I just finished changing my entire bank VISA numbers and passwords, and nothing was stolen from my account because I acted SO FAST once I noticed some red flags when looking back at the email shortly after.
Since I use paypal to get payed for my commission work, when I got this fake alert; I shrugged and went through with it like any other “UPDATED INFORMATION” sort of deal because I was distracted and only half paying attention at the time. Like a lot of people, I use paypal a lot and so much of it comes second nature. This warning is for anyone who sometimes half-pays attention to things or just misses things sometimes, even if 99% of the time they can tell what’s fake or isn’t. People make mistakes, shit happens. So anyways, here’s what it looks like when opened:
Obviously, there are a few give aways that spell out F-A-K-E here, but me being Dyslexic, the few spelling errors literally didn’t jump out to me AT ALL (thanks a lot neurodiversity + dyslexia) so to me it sounded legitimate enough to trust even for only one stupid second. It takes you to what looks PERFECTLY like the actual Paypal log in, like I literally saw NO difference. They looked the EXACT SAME!!!
I saw no difference from the unusual…until I saw the URL just a little too late. (this is the fake one:)
Ok, now I was feeling REALLY STUPID for not checking the URL first, but shit happens. I was distracted, and like I said it DOES sadly look pretty legit if you’re paying little attention or are going on auto pilot.
Compare that URL to the ACTUAL LEGIT paypal one:
Another thing that got me at first was that this was in my actual inbox, not a junk/spam folder. This thing is fooling filters somehow so once again, if you’re only paying half attention, it’s easy to be like “oh ok whatever this won’t take long.” So now let’s look at the emails senders.
Legitimate/Official:
FAKE/SCAM:
If you fall/fell for this one, don’t panic. (I FREAKED OUT when I first realized I fell for a fake email that just got all my VISA numbers, and that didn’t help at all.)
What you need to do is change ALL of your passwords ASAP, and cancel/change your card number ASAP. DON’T just change your passwords! There should be a phone number on the back of your card, call that number and explain that you need all numbers changed. As soon as all that’s taken care of, you should be fine. So this whole thing might not’ve been one of my brighter moments, but I had NO idea this was going around, so I figured I’d spread it around as much as possible! Be extra aware! Look out for anything that jumps out as unusual, especially if you actively use paypal.
keep in mind this is a MAN-MADE health crisis. they changed the water of a lower-income black community for a reason. 12 people have died so far because of the water and now the women are suffering from miscarriages. this story needs as much attention as possible. a black community is still being poisoned and pro-lifers don’t seem to give a shit
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