Imagine that your partner has been hitting you. Yelling at you. You’ve been married for a few years, you’re both in your 30s, you have a little daughter, and everything you do seems to be wrong. You’ve been made fun of, mocked and belittled by your partner.
But you need them, because you can’t take another failed relationship. You can’t be alone again, and they’ve got you convinced that all the beatings and scratches and scrapes are your fault.
You tell your friends and they laugh. No matter how many bruises or cuts you show them, it’s still your fault, so you hide them. You feel trapped, but you don’t feel like you can escape. You’re convinced that you’re just locking yourself in.
And you see online one day an article. Someone else went through what you have. They got the cuts, the bruises, the scratches. You see that here is hope and freedom from these beatings. The physical and emotional pain can go away, there is someone there to help!
So you write down a list of 10 abuse victim hotlines, for people being abused. And you call them one by one.
If you were a man:
6 of those hotlines would refuse to help because of your gender.
3 of those hotlines would refer you to or give you a number to a hotline dealing with people that abuse and are looking to stop.
1 of those hotlines would help.
Out of those 10, 2 of those would also laugh at you or say you deserved it.
If you were a woman:
10 of those hotlines would help.
Abuse is very scary, but what seems scarier to you; being abused, reaching out and getting the help you need, or being abused, reaching out and getting laughed and turned away over 60% of the time because of who you are?
Only 8% of men who call abuse hotlines find them ‘very helpful’ and get the assistance they need.
All they could say is “this is trash” because this study was written and published by a woman with a PhD and is comprehensive and heavily sourced.
Just to add some quotes found in the study from men who tried to seek help:
• They laughed at me and told me I must have done something to deserve it if it happened at all.
• They asked how much I weighed and how much she weighed and then hung up on me…I was told by this agency that I was full of BS.
• They accused me of trying to hide my “abuse” of her by claiming to be a victim, and they said that I was nothing more than a wimp.
• They didn’t really listen to what I said. They assumed that all abusers are men and said that I must accept that I was the abuser. They ridiculed me for not leaving my wife, ignoring the issues about what I would need to do to protect my six children and care for them.
And maybe the saddest one: They just laughed and hung up the phone.
Man can be abused too , this is not trash
My father had to suffer hell for years , and he ended up in hopsital too because of my mother . So don’t you dare to say that a man can’t suffer from abuse because that’s bullshit. It happens , it can happen to everyone . And the fact that people are not willing to help is just sick
Decided to join the Mass Effect Fan Forge, since it’s my first N7 Day! ^^ three entries with different art styles and themes/tones. If you guys are interested in getting any of these as prints for stuff, they’re up for voting on their respective pages on the site.
• Space Hamster [🡵] – a painted-over version of this post with a few tweaks. This hamster is my baby and is probably the post that most defines my perception of ME and inspired my blog name. Text from the Latin phrase per aspera ad astra. Keyword: “wonder” (ME1); cool tones, painted.
• The Last [🡵] – the original concept for this Javik week post. I never got to sketch this down after I decided to do a different version to go along with a humorous post, but still liked the idea and kept it in my WIPs. Text from DLC title. Keyword: “desperation” (ME3); warm tones, faux vector.
• Survivor, Criminal, Savior [🡵] – wanted to have an entry with the iconic black-red-white color scheme, and decided on something to represent the duality of Shepard. Blood on hands was meant to be figurative but I liked how it looked – unwashed and fresh. Key phrase: “sinner or saint” (ME2/3 post-Arrival), flat with single accent, manhwa/manga.
The story of Superman and Moses are actually very similar. Both were sent away in a capsule, as their family was about to be killed, and were adopted into another family. After reaching adulthood, they used their special powers to benefit those around them
Yeah it’s almost as though Superman’s creators were Jewish and that was an intentional parallel.
The superman and Jesus parallel was probably more intentional.
But the parallel Moses and Jesus is also intentional for another reason.
no, i promise you it wasn’t. the creators of superman were Jewish they were not referencing Jesus at all. Superman’s name is literally Ka-El. It’s Hebrew. There are multiple books about Superman’s Jewish origins. (Up, Up, and Oy Vey; Superman is Jewish?; and Mensch of Steel. It’s also covered in the book Superman: The High-Flying History of America’s Most Enduring Hero). It’s been suggested that Siegel and Shuster would have almost certainly been familiar with (also Jewish!) strongman Zishe Breitbart, who was billed as the “Superman of the Ages.”
no one was paralleling jesus in the creation of Superman.
other people superman was based off of/inspired by:
creator Jerry Siegel, who posed for some of the early designs (and was obviously Jewish)
his father, Mitchell (still Jewish) who died after an armed robbery
Stanley Weiss, who was Jewish, and posed for the design updates in 1945. below is a picture of his son, holding one of those sketches:
Siegel and Shuster were not paralleling Jesus.
“Superman and Jesus parallel”
Hey, Christians: NOT EVERY PURE OF HEART PERSON IS JESUS.
An undocumented Anaheim man picked up by immigration officials after appearing in court to seek a restraining order against his daughter’s molester could be deported Tuesday, his family said.
Immigration and Customs Enforcement detained Marcos Villanueva while he was out at breakfast with his family on Aug. 8, just two days after he testified in court so his 12-year-old daughter could have a restraining order against her alleged attacker, according to his lawyer and loved ones.
She had accused her 51-year-old uncle of molesting her, attorney Willard Bakeman told KTLA. A judge dismissed that criminal case in July due to lack of evidence, the Orange County Register reported.
The family then sought a restraining order against the uncle, Villanueva’s lawyer said. They believe the uncle tipped off ICE in retaliation.
“I was left without a husband, from one minute to the next, and I didn’t even know who took him,” Villanueva’s wife, Jenie Villalvir, told KTLA.
The 40-year-old father and professional house painter — who’s being held at a facility near Irvine — had no criminal record, according to his lawyer. Now, he’s scheduled to be deported at 5 a.m. on Tuesday to Honduras, where Bakeman said he would likely by kidnapped and killed.
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